My First Love

We are in the age of “Double Income No Kids” (DINK) couples, surrogacy, and women climbing the corporate ladder keeping their biology at stake. However, at the very core of every woman lies a yearning desire to be a mother. Nature blessed her uniquely, and she is ever so grateful of it. With enough mothers around me, young and old, successful and not so successful, they have always vouched that nothing made them feel better than holding the bundle of joy for the first time. But, what made them anxious, eager and proud was when their husbands held the baby, and felt like proud fathers. A man who shows absolutely no signs of being a caring father will never make it to the best husband list. A woman is not looking for a Greek God, a sex symbol, rich suave man driving in expensive cars and has impeccable sense of humour. She is looking for someone exactly like her father. A man who can hold her the way her father held when she feared the lightning; who can be proud of every achievement, even if it was making the first cup of tea; who will walk with her in the rains just to see her smile as water tickles her tiny toes; who will wipe her tears and tell her it is okay to fail but still be with her as she pursues her dreams (very silly at times). It is not because she wants to be fathered by her husband, or be her guys’ princesses. Plain, ‘cause she wants her little ones to be fathered as she was. A woman is constantly living with the mother within her. And, at each stage in life there is a strong reflection of the same. Women take better calculated and less aggressive risks; she cannot afford to take chances when she has nascent lives or a young project alike. A woman learns to trust a man when she knows her father can solve all the problems that exist on this planet. She knows men cry, when her dad cried because his daughter’s heart was broken. She knows men are messy when her father leaves the kitchen like a tornado hit region. All that a girl knows about a man is all that her dad is. She wants a man with a strong head, as according to your girl, you have to be there when she goofs up, when she doesn’t know what to do at the family function and when she has had a bad argument with your mother. When your girl gets paranoid about your regular flu, she thinks you are helpless by yourself like her father. And if you don’t escort her at midnight, its criminal, she is a princess after all, her dad’s princess. I might stretch this a little further and say, while no girl can cook like your mother, no guy can care like her father. He never broke promises, so when the first time a guy broke my promise, I was destroyed. Never blame a girl for being an independent woman, just speak to her dad; He set the benchmarks high for you. He never lost trust in her decisions, and held her hand each time she tripped. He taught her that life is a wave of countless troughs; but just believe in yourself and rest shall be taken care of. A father makes sure his daughter grows by allowing her to explore her world, reason out those fairy tales and make a name for herself. He is apprehensive of others around her; will never stop his daughter from riding the bicycle but would keep a constant guard on the wheels. Guys, you might compare and crib your wife’s culinary skills and housekeeping ratings; you have a man to match with, who is the only benchmark in a woman’s life. Each time a girl thinks of the man of her dreams, the obvious qualities that flash her mind are those that her dad has. A father is not only the first man in her life, his nature and ways become a determining factor in her life. So, when she falls in love, she falls in love with the man who loves her like her father, points flaws like her father, and forever stands like a pillar so strong. A woman is a blend of her father’s daughter, and her offspring’s mother. I hope I make you proud Daddy just like your proud daughter.

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